Leadership in transition

The more I read about leadership and all of its characteritistics, the more I see the cracks in my armour. After spending 22 years in the military I came to think of myself as a pretty good leader. I believed that I earned the respects of my leaders, peers and followers. But now as I am entering the civilian workforce, I am forced to take a step back and look at my leadership practices in a different light. No longer is that need of people around you to "blindly" obey my every wish. (Not that they ever did before!) Respect is not given in the civilian sector the same as in the military culture. It is going to be very hard for me to come to grips with the fact that not everyone is respectful of everyone's authority as a matter of right. I am so used to leader entering a room a silence falling that it un-nerves me when people constantly talk during a briefing. Is this what is store for me throughout my civilian career? Will I have to compromise what I believe are steadfast principles of leadership/respect to deal with a culture I don't understand? This is definitely a case of lifelong learning. You will never know enough about the culture you are apart of. You have to adapt your leadership style, gain new skills and cross new borders for every career you enter into.